What kind of friend are you? It’s taken me a long time in life to realize that there are different kinds of friends in this world. Some are the kind who are good listeners, others are the kind who you go to for a good laugh.There are the kind who are always up to do things, and then there are … [Read more...] about Making friends with yourself
Playfulness
Making space for play. If you're reading this blog, then you're someone who cares about personal growth.If you've been interested in sounding more authentic, trusting your own voice, or claiming your own authority, you've most likely noticed just how hard this work can be.The harder we try … [Read more...] about Playfulness
Stop bullying yourself
The bully. Do you ever notice the way we sometimes talk to ourselves?For instance, "I have to stop saying sorry."or"I should eat better."There's a lot of intensity behind these sentences.I've talked in the past about perfectionism and how it can make us brittle, and I recognize … [Read more...] about Stop bullying yourself
Your unique voice
What if you trusted your own voice? There are so many helpful tips out there regarding how to speak with clarity and poise, but what about how to speak as yourself?Do you want to have more confidence when you speak?Do you wish that you could have more influence when you speak?And do you … [Read more...] about Your unique voice
What weakens our words?
The power of language. Have you ever said or written something that you felt was clear, only to find that it was misunderstood?Perhaps you've written an email that you felt was clearly stating your position, only to find that the meaning hadn't been clear?If so, then you're not … [Read more...] about What weakens our words?
Feedback Loops
The nature of communication There's a phenomenon in communication that's quite common, but that doesn't get as much attention as it deserves.That's the phenomenon of a feedback loop in communication.I think of this as an important tool in our society as human beings. It allows us to orient, … [Read more...] about Feedback Loops
When is support like a restraint?
The art of letting go. I've been thinking of the balance between letting go and wanting to keep things safe.Perhaps it's because our youngest child is graduating from high school this year, or maybe it's related to all the ups and downs of the pandemic. Each case brings with it a desire to … [Read more...] about When is support like a restraint?
What’s in your way?
The obstacle within. Is there something that you want to do, some change you want to make in your life, but you feel blocked?I don't mean changing who you are, rather changing how you are in the world.Maybe you want to start a business, take a poetry class, pick up cycling or do more … [Read more...] about What’s in your way?
Open your heart.
What if you could let more light in? Have you found yourself thinking negative thoughts about other people in the past few days?Is there someone out there who has pushed one of your buttons and gotten you agitated?If so, you may notice that your compassion gas-tank is low and your heart … [Read more...] about Open your heart.