What kind of friend are you? It’s taken me a long time in life to realize that there are different kinds of friends in this world. Some are the kind who are good listeners, others are the kind who you go to for a good laugh.There are the kind who are always up to do things, and then there are … [Read more...] about Making friends with yourself
Making space for play. If you're reading this blog, then you're someone who cares about personal growth.If you've been interested in sounding more authentic, trusting your own voice, or claiming your own authority, you've most likely noticed just how hard this work can be.The harder we try … [Read more...] about Playfulness
The bully. Do you ever notice the way we sometimes talk to ourselves?For instance, "I have to stop saying sorry."or"I should eat better."There's a lot of intensity behind these sentences.I've talked in the past about perfectionism and how it can make us brittle, and I recognize … [Read more...] about Stop bullying yourself
What if you trusted your own voice? There are so many helpful tips out there regarding how to speak with clarity and poise, but what about how to speak as yourself?Do you want to have more confidence when you speak?Do you wish that you could have more influence when you speak?And do you … [Read more...] about Your unique voice
The nature of communication There's a phenomenon in communication that's quite common, but that doesn't get as much attention as it deserves.That's the phenomenon of a feedback loop in communication.I think of this as an important tool in our society as human beings. It allows us to orient, … [Read more...] about Feedback Loops
The art of letting go. I've been thinking of the balance between letting go and wanting to keep things safe.Perhaps it's because our youngest child is graduating from high school this year, or maybe it's related to all the ups and downs of the pandemic. Each case brings with it a desire to … [Read more...] about When is support like a restraint?
Help! What is it about asking for help that's so hard?Perhaps in the USA, it's the tradition of Emerson's "self-reliance" that makes it difficult. Many think that it's a sin to rely on someone else to get a task done. In Emerson's world, looking to others for help can erode independence.Or … [Read more...] about Asking for help.