Intent vs. Impact Whenever I enter into a situation where there is confusion and conflict within a team, I look for the gap between the intentions and the impacts of what people say.What does that mean?Most people who are working on a project have to work collaboratively with a team of … [Read more...] about What do you mean?
Pay attention
Just this. Here is one of my favorite W.S. Merwin poems, in which he encourages all of us to pay more attention. Just this. Just this, this room where we are. Pay attention to that. Pay attention to who's there. Pay attention to what is known there. Pay attention to what … [Read more...] about Pay attention
Making friends with yourself
What kind of friend are you? It’s taken me a long time in life to realize that there are different kinds of friends in this world. Some are the kind who are good listeners, others are the kind who you go to for a good laugh.There are the kind who are always up to do things, and then there are … [Read more...] about Making friends with yourself
Stop bullying yourself
The bully. Do you ever notice the way we sometimes talk to ourselves?For instance, "I have to stop saying sorry."or"I should eat better."There's a lot of intensity behind these sentences.I've talked in the past about perfectionism and how it can make us brittle, and I recognize … [Read more...] about Stop bullying yourself
What’s in your way?
The obstacle within. Is there something that you want to do, some change you want to make in your life, but you feel blocked?I don't mean changing who you are, rather changing how you are in the world.Maybe you want to start a business, take a poetry class, pick up cycling or do more … [Read more...] about What’s in your way?
Open your heart.
What if you could let more light in? Have you found yourself thinking negative thoughts about other people in the past few days?Is there someone out there who has pushed one of your buttons and gotten you agitated?If so, you may notice that your compassion gas-tank is low and your heart … [Read more...] about Open your heart.