Anything but that. Have you ever noticed a temptation to signal helplessness? I once was in a particularly difficult spin class where the instructor kept shouting to us to increase the resistance on our bikes. About halfway through the class, I was feeling like I had made a terrible mistake. … [Read more...] about Our techniques to avoid failure.
What should I do? Have you ever been in a meeting where you aren't the one presenting, and you're not sure what to do? Some people disconnect, stop listening, or do their email, while others might look for ways to interject into the presentation. It's difficult to know how to play a role in … [Read more...] about It’s about the support
Making space for play. If you're reading this blog, then you're someone who cares about personal growth. If you've been interested in sounding more authentic, trusting your own voice, or claiming your own authority, you've most likely noticed just how hard this work can be. The harder we try … [Read more...] about Playfulness
"What good is it to know the answer if no one understands you?" When I first started out as a coach, I worked for an organization called Pharmapprove that helped Pharmaceutical companies prepare for FDA Advisory Committee hearings. These hearings are often high stakes, political, and deeply … [Read more...] about What is it to know?
Happy New Year! These moments when we mark transitions can be both helpful and not helpful. It's helpful to think about what I want more or and what I want less of in the New Year, but it's not helpful if I believe that somehow I'm going to be a different person. If we really want to change … [Read more...] about Just do you.
Awareness It isn't enough to simply be aware of how you feel in any given situation. If you are a leader (or a parent/teacher/mentor) then you ought to also be aware of how that feeling looks and feels to others. Does anger always look angry? Will happiness always look happy? Must fear … [Read more...] about Scared and Scary
The root of all heartache Shakespeare once wrote that "expectations are the root of all heartache" and I think he's right. For anyone who's been watching the recent news cycles on the new mutation for Covid, you've probably felt some strong emotions. If you expected this all along, you might … [Read more...] about Expectations (and wishing for bad luck)
What if you could let more light in? Have you found yourself thinking negative thoughts about other people in the past few days? Is there someone out there who has pushed one of your buttons and gotten you agitated? If so, you may notice that your compassion gas-tank is low and your heart … [Read more...] about Open your heart.
What is my whole self? Actors often talk about bringing their whole selves to the stage, which means how we experience them while they are on the stage. Are they physically, emotionally, and intellectually present? Eugenio Barba developed a unique program in Denmark for Odin Teatret that was … [Read more...] about Bring Your Whole Self.
How do you push back against someone else's criticism of something you love and appreciate? Do you tell them that they're "crazy"? You're not alone. Back in May, I listened to a podcast conversation between Malcolm Gladwell and Adam Grant wherein they discuss Adam's new book Think Again. (I'm … [Read more...] about “You’re crazy if you think that” (and other nonsense).
"Close listening occurs when we're fully engaged in the here and now" -Steven Kottler I help people find ways to communicate their ideas and their strategic perspectives clearly, simply and persuasively. There are many important elements to making your points sound persuasive to another party, but … [Read more...] about What does it mean to listen?