Intent vs. Impact Whenever I enter into a situation where there is confusion and conflict within a team, I look for the gap between the intentions and the impacts of what people say.What does that mean?Most people who are working on a project have to work collaboratively with a team of … [Read more...] about What do you mean?
Situation vs. Character
Perceptions. Why are collaboration and cooperation sometimes so difficult?What are the reasons why we struggle so much with calling each other out when we don't like what's happening?So much of this has to do with the ways that we interpret our own behaviors versus how we interpret other … [Read more...] about Situation vs. Character
It’s about the support
What should I do? Have you ever been in a meeting where you aren't the one presenting, and you're not sure what to do?Some people disconnect, stop listening, or do their email, while others might look for ways to interject into the presentation. It's difficult to know how to play a role in … [Read more...] about It’s about the support
Making space for play. If you're reading this blog, then you're someone who cares about personal growth.If you've been interested in sounding more authentic, trusting your own voice, or claiming your own authority, you've most likely noticed just how hard this work can be.The harder we try … [Read more...] about Playfulness
When is support like a restraint?
The art of letting go. I've been thinking of the balance between letting go and wanting to keep things safe.Perhaps it's because our youngest child is graduating from high school this year, or maybe it's related to all the ups and downs of the pandemic. Each case brings with it a desire to … [Read more...] about When is support like a restraint?
Asking for help.
Help! What is it about asking for help that's so hard?Perhaps in the USA, it's the tradition of Emerson's "self-reliance" that makes it difficult. Many think that it's a sin to rely on someone else to get a task done. In Emerson's world, looking to others for help can erode independence.Or … [Read more...] about Asking for help.